Looking back in 2017, and a few years before that. I’d been foul-mouthing my last employer quite a bit with my inner circle (close friends and family). My bad.
But let me share with you how I reason my “goodbye 9-5” mission.
It all began since I first joined my first employer in 2002. I had been complaining about the way the coporate world works.
The way corporate world works
- False job security. Your own success is not defined by you, but your boss and higher-up executives.
You’re basically at their mercy. You don’t agree? Let me ask you a quick question. If your success is defined by you, then why would you need to negotiate your raise and defend your performance?
- Where and how you get the result doesn’t count. Your boss doesn’t care if you’re actually doing your job or not, as long as you give him the result.
You ever meet people who act like they’ve done the work themselves (but actually not) and then takes credit when talking to the boss? Somehow, the boss loves this kind of people. But to me, I hate this type of people to the bone.
- Showcase yourself is equally, or even more, important to working hard. Your hard work is not recognized if you don’t put yourself in a spotlight.
I am a big believer that real work is what’s important, and there’s no need to shout out what I do. I hate showing off. I feel like it’s a waste of time working on showing off your work.
- And a lot more…
I was so frustrated with how a company works. It really goes against my core value. My heroic mind convinced me that I should be able to make a change to the way things work in a company.
That’s so heroic, right?
However, in the last 6 months before I decided to leave the corporate world, my mindset has shifted.
If you want to stay in a company, play by its rules
I start to see that companies have been around for centuries, and how it works has been shaped and tested by time. Plus, the fact that I don’t like how companies work doesn’t mean others don’t like it too. I’m pretty sure a lot of people out there truly love how companies work. And now I think they’re so blessed to be able to work in an environment that they love.
I realize that no one really forces me to stay in the company. It’s really my own mind keeping me imprisoned there. The company didn’t force me to stay. No one. I caged myself in the corporate world. Maybe because of the pay. Maybe because I was a coward.
Then, another fact is that staying in a company is just like playing a sport. You’re in a game, you play by the rules. When you’re playing a basketball, you dribble. You don’t hold the ball and run, as that’s opposed the rule. Even when you know it’s much more efficient to just hold the ball and run.
Therefore, I think: If I don’t like the rule, I have to go and play some other sports. Or I need to come up with my own game, my own rules.
The same goes for the corporate world.
You don’t like how a company works, you quit and find yourself another job. You want no more corporate world? You build your own company, create your own rules.
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” ― Jalaluddin Rumi
As simple as that. (I learn a lot in the recent years that I need to keep this K.I.S.S. in mind: Keep It Simple, Stupid!)
And that’s why I’m here, working on my own online businesses.
It’s not easy to quit when you have to rely on your day-job paycheck
Well, I totally understand it’s not as easy as it sounds when you have to rely on the paycheck. I 100% get that.
I told you I’ve been through the situation before.
Reliance on regular paycheck is a kind of fear (Will Smith will ask you “What do you need that fear for?”)
Let me tell you the way I tackle this. Again, plain and simple. I ask myself “What’s the worst case scenario?”
What is the worst thing that might happen if you quit your job?
- Are you and your family going to starve to death?
My response: Not really. First, I’ll use my savings. Then if it really runs out and I still can’t make enough money, then I’m willing to work extra hard on a side job. I’m pretty sure that I can get their stomachs filled.
And in reality, there’re friends and relatives that I’m sure they won’t let me and my family die of starvation. Do you really think your parents will let you die of? Not in this life and the afterlives.
- … I can’t think of anything worse than that.
You need to be aware that quitting voluntarily is way better than getting fired.
I mentioned above that there’s no real job security. I didn’t lie and I don’t sugar coat my blog. You can get fired anytime.
Voluntarily quitting a job, at the bare minimum, gives you a chance to take charge and plan for it. You know what’s coming.
It’s much easier to deal with expected hardship than dealing with an unexpected change.
You need to believe in yourself. If you don’t, no one will
The belief that you’re going to make it is very important.
“Imagination will often carry us to worlds that never were. But without it we go nowhere.” – Carl Sagan
Not much to discuss here. That explains it all.
But I want to leave something for you to think about.
It’s good that you’re responsible for your family. But you have to be responsible for your own happiness and your dream too.
It means nothing to be a good employee, but a failed spouse and parent.
And it means nothing to be a good spouse and parent, if you fail to live your own dream.