At the time of writing, I submitted my resignation letter to my boss 10 days ago. I just quitted being an employee.
Freeing my soul from the corporate world and the society’s belief.
Below is how I reach I reach my decision of quitting my day job.
Keeping your day job or letting it go?
This question has a deeper meaning than it looks. To me, life is short. Therefore, I want to make sure it’s fulfilling, and meaningful.
It’s your life. You need to take charge of it.
If you don’t, somebody else will do it for you.
Seriously, day job contributes more than 1/3 of your life (more than 8 hours a day).
That is huge.
Whatever you do during this 8 hours, you got to make sure it really fulfills you.
Here are some indicators you should be able to spot and get yourself the answer
Hitting the snooze button in the morning
How many times you hit it before you wake up? How often? Would you do the same when you are on holiday?
This is one good indicator whether or not you’re passionate about your job. When you’re looking forward to what you’re going to do, you will just wake up fresh in the morning and motivated.
But if it’s something you don’t want to do, then this snooze symptom occurs.
Pretending to like your job
Do you ever smile and say yes to an assignment that you don’t believe in? Pretending that you care?
Say, when your boss came to you with an assignment that’s against your belief, what would you do?
A: It doesn’t matter what assignment is. The company pays you to execute this. Even it’s against your belief, you’ll just get this done. You don’t feel anything.
B: Have a serious talk with the boss that you don’t really want to do it because you don’t believe in it. Unless you’re convinced, you don’t do it. Many time it ends up you have to do it (frustratingly) because it’s an order
Are you A or B? Or neither?
Whatever your answer is:
“If you ever find yourself in the wrong story, leave.” ― Mo Willems, Goldilocks and the Three Dinosaurs
Questioning the value you’ve created for the company and the society
First of all, I believe every job out there has their own value. A company hires you because they want you to create value to their customers, directly or indirectly.
That’s how the company make money. The company provide value to customers, customers provide financial value exchange.
But if your own value and the company’s are not aligned. When that happens, you will feel the frustration.
That’s when you started to ask yourself
“Hey, do I really create anything valuable in the company? Do I make any positive impact?”
It pains when you feel you are not contributing something valuable to the company and the society.
I talked to a colleague about this and she told me “Ray, It’s your ego. You just get rid of that thought and you will be relieved. After all, the company pays you to work, then you simply work.”
“Ray, It’s your ego. You just get rid of that thought and you will be relieved. After all, the company pays you to work, then you simply work.”
To me, and maybe to you as well, ego and value are totally different.
I know ego is no good. It’s the stubborn bad habits you’re unconsciously clinging on to.
But value is what makes you you.
If staying with a company deteriorate your value, you really need to think about it.
Feeling frustrated that you can’t attend your family affair because you have to work
Family is the most important thing to me.
And I believe, it is to you, as well.
Ad hoc meeting and you miss your daughter’s birthday. Business travel when your wife is in hospital. Relocation when your parents are old.
Understandable. As you’re working for a company, you have your responsibility as a professional.
But don’t forget, at the same time, you have a responsibility as a father, mother, husband or wife as well.
It means nothing to be a successful manager, but a failed parent.
Don’t try to reason that you need to earn money for your family.
It’s just a lame excuse.
There’s surely a way for you to earn money AND still have time for your family.
You might only need to work harder. You might just take a leap for a certain change.
Don’t tell me it’s absolutely impossible for your current situation.
It’s just because you don’t want to (or are afraid to) work harder, or take some risks.
Some of these points really hit you hard?
Then it’s time to take charge of your life.
No, you don’t have to make an abrupt change.
Make a goal. Plan it out. Execute it. Bit by bit. Little by little.
A life journey is like a marathon, not a sprint.
Takie small, consistent actions towards your goal.